When a leader doesn’t deal with emotions properly, it can have negative impacts on those they lead. Are you in touch with your emotions as a leader? Do you find healthy ways to manage and process your emotions?

5 Steps to Managing Your Emotions as a Leader with Jessica Hottle

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One of the things that often comes up as we enter the holiday season are feelings and emotions. We can have unwanted emotions, family challenges, or too high of expectations. Perhaps there is  more pressure at work and you’re finding it hard to enjoy the season. The truth is that  when we don’t deal with or manage our emotions,  it has a negative impact on us (both in the moment and the long term), and it actually impacts the people we lead as well. 

In today’s conversation, I’m chatting with Jessica Hottle about her leadership journey and why we as leaders need to manage our emotions. Jessica shares a 5 step process we can use to manage our emotions as leaders.

Key Points Discussed:

  • About Jessica and her leadership [4:35]
  • Jessica’s leadership journey [6:35]
  • How she came to Christ [8:30]
  • Leadership lessons from Jessica’s life [9:40]
  • How she became interested in the issue of emotions [11:50]
  • Why it’s important for leaders to manage and process their emotions [13:50]
  • Help on identifying emotions [17:50]
  • Jessica’s 5 step process of dealing with emotions [21:40]
    • Step 1: Acknowledge your emotion
    • Step 2: Identify your emotion
    • Step 3: Accept the emotion
    • Step 4: What is the emotion telling you?
    • Step 5: Have the conversation with God
  • Advice for less emotional women [28:20]
  • Practical ways to identify why something is upsetting you [34:05]
  • Balancing emotions based on scripture [37:50]
  • Helping someone deal with emotions in a healthy way [43:00]
  • Resources that help her lead [45:30]
  • Healthy habits [47:00]
  • Leadership advice [48:20]


Key Quotes from the Episode:

“It’s okay not to be okay… but we can’t stay there.”

“You don’t want to live in this place of suffering… it’s a place of visitation, not of habitation.”

“If we’re not intentional about what’s in our hearts, it can disrupt the whole organization.”

“You might not even recognize how other people are experiencing you.”

“Ask for what you need.”

“A lot of times we use our emotions as our identity, which is not based in the word of God or the fruit of the spirit.”

“The more honest that we can be with God, the more we can begin to heal.”

“Your body will tell you first what is going to be triggering you before you are even aware of it.”

“When we show vulnerability, it means intimacy.”

“Do we believe who God says he is, and do we believe he’s good to us?”

“Just because it’s not done my way doesn’t mean it’s done the wrong way.”


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Jessica Hottle is a faith-based fitness coach, podcast host, best-selling author, and speaker with a heart for teaching women how to dismantle the lies that keep them from healing and wholeness. She is the author of 4 books with her new book coming out this fall titled Face Off with Your Feelings: Break Up with the Lies From Your Past and Embrace the Truth for Your Future. Jessica is the host of What’s The Truth, a show where she challenges the way her listeners think so they can change the way they live. Her writing has been featured by she works His way, Cross Training Couture, and Revelation Wellness. When she isn’t writing, speaking, or coaching you can find her enjoying time with her husband Jon, being a momma to their three cats, and spending her free time outside whenever she can (playing golf, hiking, reading, or writing in her journal).


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